Marriage Check-In: Nigerian Couples in the Diaspora on Making It Work
Six couples in the UK, US and Canada tell Yewande what has actually held their marriages together.
Yewande Balogun
Relationships & Marriage Columnist · Family & relationship writing
Contributor note: Demonstration profile for this portfolio project. Not a real Nigerian journalist.
For all the diaspora wedding content the internet produces, marriage content is rare. Yewande spoke to six Nigerian couples living in the UK, the US and Canada — all married three years or more — about what has actually held.
Money, honestly
Every single couple named money conversations as the biggest recurring stress. Every single couple who felt they were doing well had, at some point, sat down and written down a shared financial plan, even if only for six months at a time.
In-laws, from afar
Distance does not neutralise in-law dynamics; it re-shapes them. The couples with the healthiest patterns had explicit conversations about how much extended-family involvement they wanted in the marriage — and stuck to those agreements when tested.
Two full jobs, one home
Two-career homes are the diaspora default. What made a difference: a shared calendar (a recurring theme in this column), boundaries around after-hours work, and — for the couples with kids — a hard rule that solo weekends off would be scheduled and honoured.
Story highlights
- Money conversations are the biggest recurring stress across every couple.
- Written six-month financial plans came up repeatedly in healthy patterns.
- Scheduled solo weekends were a shared coping strategy for two-career homes.
What people are saying
- Diaspora couples say the money conversation is the hardest to start.
- Counsellors are recommending short-window plans over annual budgets.
- In-law dynamics remain a top request for future column topics.
Where this fits in the bigger picture
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Story highlights
- Money conversations are the biggest recurring stress across every couple.
- Written six-month financial plans came up repeatedly in healthy patterns.
- Scheduled solo weekends were a shared coping strategy for two-career homes.
What people are saying
- Diaspora couples say the money conversation is the hardest to start.
- Counsellors are recommending short-window plans over annual budgets.
- In-law dynamics remain a top request for future column topics.
